​Talking To Mum About Aged Care

Posted on April 22, 2019.


You want your mum to maintain her independence and not think of aged care as ‘the end of the road in a nursing home’, but you know that elder care is the best option in the long term for her growing physical needs. This blog highlights the things to look out for in an elder, and how to broach the subject with them.

The early signs to watch out for
Aging parents are often in denial that there is a problem with their health that needs addressing, but the problems will not go away on their own.

There are several signs you can watch out for to determine if your loved one might need elder care in the future in their everyday activities and tasks. They are often visible as soon as you pull up on the driveway of their home.

  • The driveway and front garden haven’t been properly maintained with grass that hasn’t been mown and leaves pilling up in the carport.
  • Post is piled up and unopened and the house isn’t as clean and in order as it usually is.
  • Issues with payments, bounced cheques, final notices of bills not being paid.
  • Changes of mood with your elder and extreme mood swings.
  • Confusion and uncertainty about performing tasks they usually can complete with ease.
  • They’re missing important appointments with doctors or at the hospital and haven’t been out to socialise with friends as much.

This list isn’t exhaustive but gives you an idea of what to look for. Generally, you will know pretty quickly if something ‘doesn’t feel right’ when you enter their home.


Start the talk sooner than later
The first step for ‘the talk’ about aged care is to bring it up before it’s too late. The earlier this is done, the easier and more sound minded your elder will be when disusing their growing physical and mental needs down the line for elder care.

You may be surprised to hear that they’ve been wanting to reach out for a while, but haven’t had the courage to make the first move.

Invite them to lead the discussions so they feel in control of their life still. Sit down and have an honest conversation about the concerns you’ve picked up on, any safety risks as well as any other fears about being home alone without extra support.

Above all, be honest, respectful and understanding of your elderly parent’s situation. Put themselves in your shoes for a moment and consider how you would like to be treated in this situation.

Stay positive and remind them that, whilst they may lose some of their independence by moving into residential care, you believe it will enhance their their long term health and wellbeing, improving the quality of their daily life.

Do some research into residential care
There are a multitude of care options available which can be overwhelming and confusing at first but Juniper can help and guide you through the many options available and ensure you have a clear understanding of the services that will best meet your loved ones needs.

If you agree with your loved one that residential care is the best option take some time to look at a number of operators, their pricing and what services they will provide so you can inform your parents of the care options and agree on which one works best for your family.

The Service Finder at My Aged Care is a starting point to explore what support you’re eligible for from the Australian government.

The benefits of residential care
One of the main reasons of using residential care facilities is the immediate access to important services such as a team of registered nurses who operate 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.


Many residential care homes have access to health professionals, carers and therapy staff who offer a high standard of care.

Freshly cooked meals are all taken care of, relieving the burden of cooking and cleaning.

There will also be plenty of opportunities for your loved one to expand their social network with likeminded people.

Our new service in Martin, Juniper Hayloft has availability and interested elders and family members are welcome to enquire.

Located 30 minutes’ drive south-east from Perth in the heart of the City of Gosnells, Juniper Hayloft offers 100 beds over two levels in an environment of enablement and attractive design that reflects the local area’s semi-rural character.

Find out more about Juniper’s personalised services by calling our friendly team or visiting our website. For more information about Juniper’s residential services in call 1300 313 000 or email access@juniper.org.au.